To all the ladies warriors out there, stay strong, you are unique and beautiful !
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To all the ladies warriors out there, stay strong, you are unique and beautiful !
If you like what I do, please support me at ko-fi.com
Dare to love yourself !
There is only one person on this planet that cares more about you….your own self, care for yourself, you are the most important one, the only one, Dare to Love yourself. !!
Today I have been thinking through how many woman today are alone and desperate, reminiscing over my past and past experiences, remembering how hard certain situations was, and how difficult it was when I was in a domestic violence situation.
Every day I see more and more domestic violence cases happening, it’s not because the people in our lives are bad or that they have it in there nature to physically hurt their spouses, it’s because of the pressures outside of their lives that is dictating their behavior.
Clearly there are some men and woman that have it all figured out, and have no stresses inside or outside their homes but still have a domestic violence tendency, this is a very thin line to walk on, some people have been raised in homes where domestic violence was part of their childhood and what they saw as they grew up is what they’ve become, emotionally and more times that one those kids have been abused as well.
The sad part is that parents in a fiery situation themselves don’t notice the children’s suffering in a relationship like that, I have gone through it myself, when you fight everyday to stay alive in a situation like that, when you don’t want to say a word to your kids when they ask questions like, mom why are you limping again or where did that black eye come from, or the worst one of all, why were you in hospital again, are you sick ? Is there something we need to know ? Then its too late already,
I remember, the days that I spend more time in doctors offices, hospitals and often ICU than I did in my marriage, I remember that I could never mention to anyone what was going on in my life, if I did I would just get a harder beating the next time, I always defended my spouse, and was always thinking “ He will Change, I have the Power to Change him, he loves me enough to change, in my life story I was lucky in a way, I was riding as a profession and trained many horses from the race track, I always used that as an excuse to anyone that asked me a question about what happened to me, I always said I fell while jumping over a jump, or got kicked or stepped on in the stable, all lies, lying to protect my marriage and always hoping that it will stop.
But one day I saw my kids ( I only have boys ) fighting against each other, when I intervened, obviously thinking that as boys they will fight, stopped it, sat down with them and spoke about what the reason for this fight was, and to the worst feeling I have ever experienced, they explained to me that “ But that’s what daddy does with you mom when he is unhappy about something “ that’s how you guys sort your problems out…”
I nearly died that day, I could not believe what they explained to me, I had so many emotions at the same time, I was angry and hurt, I mean as a parent you want only good for your children, you want them to grow up to be successful and strong, stable minded and kind. But due to what was happening in my life, without me even realizing, defending myself all the time, not seeing that my kids were observing all this and thought that was actually how things were meant to be, and how problems were solved.
That day I realized what I was actually doing by defending my spouse, by lying about my injuries and preventing to take action against a toxic relationship and home.
One thing I want to mention though, in all honesty, Abused Wife Syndrome, is real, and many woman you speak to in a domestic violence situation will always tell you that they are too scared to leave or he will change “I know he will” or I can’t talk about this he will be more upset with me !!, let me explain what happens to people that are abused, mainly woman in this case, your self worth, your emotional mind, your physical body is so broken down that you honestly believe that you can’t breathe, cope or survive without your abuser, and worst your husband, especially when he is the bread winner and supports the family, you become so scared to walk away, you are literally afraid of everything and everyone around you, you can’t involve other people as you feel that you are bringing trouble to their lives, unfortunately friends or family members that knows about what’s going on might only support you in a situation like that for a short while, they all back up the minute it happened too many times, not understanding why you are not walking away, so they just stop helping you, as you are not wanting to help yourself in their mind, clearly not understanding why you continue to go through this abuse.
But as a mom and a woman, you don’t know what to do, you are scared, your children are involved, you have no money or financial support as a toxic person like a abuser will control all the finances, you have nowhere to go, no one to cry too, and no one that’s willing to stand up against a man like that, they would rather not have the “Trouble and Drama”, so what is the outcome, as my heading says “ ALONE “
When I finally made the decision that enough is enough ! I walked away.
With my decision I tried to take this up to the highest levels in our countries support systems, we had all the bells and whistles, the police services, domestic violence systems, protection orders etc. For days in and days out I sat in police stations with my kids, too afraid to go home, made case after case, protection order after protection order, I can’t say they did not work for awhile, but in my case my husband was already of the wagon, either always drunk, high or drunk and high at the same time, he did not care for protection orders and such.
At first the police assisted me and calmed situations down, “removed” him temporarily so that we can calm down, and think things through. Later I had to get official protection orders in place so that he can be arrested, he was relentless by the way, he would not back down. After the first arrest things just got worst, he was not afraid of jail, or authority systems, he did not care. All he cared about was “ If I can’t have you no-one else will” things badly escalated from there, he now knew that I had enough of his drama and abuse and he started feeling out of control, making the situation extremely dangerous, long story short, he was arrested many times, so many times that the police services told me that it has no effect anymore to arrest him and that it’s just free food, a roof over his head and state medical attention when he needs it in jail, so they started to refuse and ignore the calls and complaints.
Eventually the case got to court and he was sentenced to a long term as well as anger management, things never changed, when he got out things just continued, I eventually had to entirely remove myself and had to ask my parents to assist with my kids and moved away, out of sight out of mind. He did not care much for the kids, it was only me he obsessed with. At that time it was the only way to keep my kids safe from this man as he would not take my father on.
The point to my story is to let all woman, abused spouses and abused children around the world know that they are not alone, I have made it my life mission to assist people in these situations, to listen to them, obviously all situations are not the same as mine but it’s very similar, I understand what you are facing, I know as I have been there.
Something you need to understand..
First, you have done nothing to deserve this kind of life, remember that the problem lies with them and not you, you are good in every way.
Secondly, you are stronger than you think, all you have to do is make that decision, I know it’s super hard and one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do. But get yourself to make that decision.
Thirdly, you have people like me and I am sure others, I for instance am here to listen and give advice if possible. I am not going to run away as everyone else does, I faced this situation more than once, on my own, I understand more than most as it was my experience as well.
We also have spiritual and mental programs that we suggest to heal you inside out, if you are mentally stronger then everything else gets easier, more clearer, when you can see the future better then you can make easier decisions.
We have also put together a few online assistance systems and programs, these are created as I knew what I needed assistance with, and I want to make that available to other woman, men and children caught up in a situation like this.
Please know that you are more than welcome to reach out at anytime, even if you just need to talk or get some clarity on your next steps. It’s free.
You are not alone !!
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I know this is a subject that is very personal to some, Gratitude ! How do I honestly say Thank You for what I have in this life,
We come to this realm to learn a lesson and will continue coming back until that lesson is learned, but here is a question for my readers.
When you get born into this life, we get what is destined for us, the family we chose the people and animal spirits that becomes part of our life journey becomes your story, now obviously not everyone is born the same way, some are lucky in this life, others find it hard and struggles every day and then those serious lucky people that is born with a silver spoon.
We get shown that everything in our lives are created by us, yes there is many different views to this, not wanting to get into religion but many of the older generations believed that we live a life by what we do and that we don’t have a choice in where our lives go. That it’s destined by the rules of this life, and it has to be followed that way to be someone or become someone.
Now in the new generations we have learned that we are the creators of our lives and what we put out there is what we create and get back. With the many different belief systems everyone has its own “right of passage” creations, for example:
“Law of attraction” in different cultures – for those that does not practice the “Law of Attraction” here is a simple explanation before I get into the cultural details.
“The Law of Attraction basically teaches us that we can “with the correct thought” attract whatever we want in life, those “attractions” examples for instance are, a perfect relationship, the expected money and success you want to earn and become, the conditions you want to find yourself in and lastly how you attract the good things, emotionally and physically in and into your life”
So now getting back to the cultural differences of the “Law of Attraction”
Buddha was once’s asked why he does not show or teach his people in his teachings how to pray. He then replied that he does not want to teach people how to pray as their prayers will harm them.
What this meant was that he felt that people had to get fully conscious first, so his teachings were to teach his people to become conscious first, he then also stated that when they do become fully conscious then they would not need to apply the “Law of Attraction” as they already manifest everything they want and would not need to ask for anything more. It therefore becomes as natural as living it everyday, unconsciously. The most important part of his teaching is to remember to accept yourself and embracing all of who we are even our deepest darkest side.
Native Americans –
One example is Native Americans for instance uses a ritual that sacred dances attract weather conditions and therefore “Manifests” the desire outcome in their dances.
In Chinese Feng Shui –
For example in attracting a partner its encouraged to place to statues of two ducks in the key places of your home, the number two tells the universe that the individual is ready for partnership.
Shaman in the old days used a trance like state to “Manifest” a hunt and therefore have a successful kill. This altered state of mind would give the Shaman a connection to the universe to record the desired outcome to this kind of positive affirmation and thought.
These were just a few examples of the usage of the Law in different ways.
To get back to the initial reason for this piece called “Gratitude and saying Thank You”
Whatever we use to manifest which ever desired outcome into our lives within our believe systems, what happens if this manifestation has given us exactly what we asked for or what we have put out into the universe to receive ?
For instance, you do a money mantra, whether it is only by chant or affirmation, by meditation, or whether you put a cinnamon stick into your wallet to attract more money into your life. Now you get what you asked for, maybe not the amount you wanted right away but some form of financial abundance, you obviously then go and apply that money to whatever you needed it for.
But here is one big question, do you say Thank you to the force that made your manifestation come true ? Do you just practice real gratitude and the feeling of gratitude towards the universe or do you actually have a ritual like burning a candle inscribed with gratitude or making an offering to who you see as your deity or point of connection to your manifestations ?
I have read many blogs and pieces on the “Law of Attraction” and have never really seen that there is discussions on the aftermath of receiving the gift. I have been thinking about this much, I use the Law daily, I have never been let down by the Law and usually get what I manifest or wanting to manifest, sometimes it just happens unconsciously without me even trying hard, I guess it becomes part of your routine if you use it everyday.
In my case I really try to practice Gratitude after I have received what I asked for, irrelevant of the way I receive it, yes sometimes it does not come as I wanted it, sometimes it’s not intended to be that way and something else has been provided. I try to see every reason a gift has come or is coming and in which form it comes. I mostly get exactly what I need and asked for at that time. But to me any gift given from the universe is what is needed at that time, I have learned not to question and feel that there is no need to question.
I would really like to put a conversation out there into our online universe to learn what your Gratitude methods are, may we then pay it forward to the ones that is still learning about the Law, Manifestations and Rituals.
I feel that if we are lucky enough to understand and utilize the “Law of Attraction” correctly to teach others these methods, especially saying Thank You when the goal was achieved.
Please comment your thoughts on this.
We don’t realize how many people are actually under massive stress, if they are someone like me, then they will be doing exactly what I am doing, hiding the pressure and stress, either because they don’t want to effect their loved ones or stress the people around them.
Us as individuals have to be strong all the time, smile and wave as I always say, and just carry on, we are not always able to discuss our issues with our loved ones, especially the financial issues.
We have learned that if we discuss anything in that direction or even close to that direction then everyone effected by that same financial issue will be put under pressure as well.
For some reason due to every person’s own personality and temperament – which they are allowed to be, either turn into a support structure or getting into a fighting ring. I am now speaking of personal experience, most of the people I have met turns into fighting.
In my opinion the main reason for that is that firstly because people don’t know anymore how to talk to each other, to support each other and to talk things through. I mean clearly, we all have been raised different in our lives with our parents having different ideas and methods, let’s take a minute to look at my own experience in this life. My father was one son of a very large family, remember in those days the families were big, they had to work from a very young age, most of them not even finishing school as the family had to be supported, so with that said my dad had become a very strict person.
When I was raised we did not have a support system, it was literally suck it up buttercup and deal with your own problems. I must admit, I will always be grateful for how my mom and dad “pushed” me through life, it has made me strong and able to cope with whatever life aims at me, it does not matter if it is financial or otherwise.
I was a lucky one for being raised like that even if I hated it then and never understood why things had to be that way.
But in today’s times children are not raised that way anymore and mental breakdowns are so much more prevalent, on top of that life has become so expensive that all parents do is work to continue providing the life they envisioned for their families.
But what happens to our providers in the interim, more pressure and more pressure, and like said above, it’s not always easy to talk to family members or spouses as the will be worried which then which in turn puts more pressure on the provider.
For this reason we launched Heart Frenzies, we felt that there is a need in this world to have someone to talk to, someone that is impartial to family that can listen and give advice if possible. The best part of our structure is that it is personal, there is no answering services or commercial systems that will make you feel like you are going to a doctors office to go talk about personal issues.
We are real people that truly makes time for other’s and make them feel like they have a safe space, a space where there is no judgement, no blame and no expectations.
It’s up to you the reader to decide if there is a need for something like that in your life, my mission with this page is to let you know that we are ready and on standby whenever you need us, anytime of any day.
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In today’s world, with Covid hanging over our heads and never knowing when we will be locked down again, with people being caught up in their lives, between four walls, financial stress, family stress, loneliness and the worst depression makes life not easy.
It is not at all easy to cope all by yourself !
Have you noticed that with all these things going on and the more people feeling more stressed that our support systems are also disappearing, the people that we used to talk to, to help get us get off the edge and make us feel better, have now got their own lives to deal with, and have no time to listen to us.
With this happening there are more depression and more loneliness in our lives. I have recently spoken about how important mental self care is and how we need to learn to love ourselves, but in all honestly, that is not easy to achieve alone.
I know that many people have tried all the self help methods available, we eat better to make us feel physically better, we meditate and do spiritual practices, we spend more time to make our families more whole and we try to take time off for ourselves.
But out of experience the one thing that gets to me is staying motivated, and the only way to get properly motivated is to speak to someone like minded, someone that will not judge me, someone that I can trust,
someone that will always be available and someone that will just listen to me.
With that said, the @madiej team have launched Heart Frenzies.
Heart Frenzies Friendship Services is a non judgmental, always available service with people ready to assist anyone that just needs to talk or just need a friend, please note that this is a friendship service only, it does not involve any “other” services ( if you know what I mean ), this service is open to teenagers, adults, depressed, lonely or just need a friend one’s.
This service is pure at heart, honest and real, something missing in our new world. The mission is to assist and give something back to our society.
Why not give it a try ?
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I hope that you will support this endeavor and help assist those that need a FRIEND, ultimately without our supporters this will not be a possibility.
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I don’t know how many of you guys have been having trouble “Focusing” on manifestation to “quiet” our chaotic lives.
I have to say, I have been trying to do exactly that, my life is so chaotic and crazy at the moment, I started with my Spiritual Mental Health self care program as I mentioned in my previous post. I must add that it’s working very well, but some days I still battle to get my head quiet and relaxed.
There are so many things I want to make real in my life, I start with my mediation same time each morning, do my manifestation ritual as I usually do, and start my day after.
But some days I am having a major issue “focusing”, too many things are happening around me, too many noises and little things drawing my attention.
Where I live, beautiful place BTW, the hustle as bustle goes on until late in the evenings and early in the mornings, so if I don’t change my “Meditation” Time’s to a in the AM hour then I can’t get focused. I do not blame anyone around me as I know that with Covid going on and so many people having to work harder everyday, it’s just impossible with the few hours we have in a day, I don’t know if you guys also feel that the days just don’t have enough hours ? For me it does, it goes by so quick, some mornings I get up and it literally feels that I just close my eyes and it’s night time again. The day is over.
So with all this in my above paragraph I tried two things that have amazing results for me, and I would like to share them with you, maybe there is someone that deals with the same issue as me.
I use to use the “Vision Board Technique by the Law of Attraction Teachings”, remember the days that people could not use the “Relaxation and Manifestation” technique only ( I’m one of those people ), so they used a vision board as the Law of Attraction explained and seeing the board every day “Manifests” the attention and conditions the mind to attract exactly what you want, Remember we are what we think and we attract what we think, this is so true for me at least.
In my house I don’t have a “place” only for me so I had to come up with an idea, It took me awhile to put all the pieces together, but as I was writing in my diary ( as I usually do ), this idea struck me, It came like a vision in my mind, very clear, the universe answered me as I asked it to.
My idea was to put a “Vision Manifestation Scrap Book Diary” together, so instead of an actual “Vision Board” on a wall ( which I never knew how to explain ) – My house has boys only and they don’t have any idea or the need to understand a “Vision Board” anyway, no pun intended.
Just for explanation, I wanted something I can work on and help me focus, as well as keep things personal to me. I mean these are my deepest desires and wishes, unless you have someone that joins you in your “Manifestations” then I personally think it’s something close to the heart. Just my opinion though.
Back to my idea, I needed a diary that would be the perfect fit for this special job, I am fussy in that way, my Spiritual tools always have to be perfect as they need to create the correct energy and intent in that one tool. I looked for awhile and one morning I found the perfect one,
IF YOU WOULD LIKE A STUNNING DIARY
I could offer some very unique one’s. I like the old looking one’s that is made out of natural handmade paper and leather covers, This is a tool I will use daily so it has to be perfect and durable. Mine is the perfect size to fit in my handbag so I can use and concentrate on when I have a free moment, and obviously put new ideas in it, I love this method.
So to come back to my idea as explained above, just as exactly using an original vision board to manifest your desires and wishes ( It really works for me ) I now just scrapbook them into my diary and during my day when I see a picture of something I want or would like to have in my life, I cut it out or print it, and just as my vision board I create my scrapbook vision diary pages. This helps me to put the correct intent into my manifestations and also prepare me for my meditation which I do after I scrapbooked.
During my official meditation hour, I open my already created pages and focus on the vision I want to manifest first, then meditate, and during my day when I find content for my vision board and when idea’s come to mind I put them into my diary and when I am quiet and in my “Mental” space I create new vision pages.
I have found some programs that I am using with my concentration and manifestations, Especially on the wealth side of things, we all need more money right ?
The one program I will be talking about on this post is an Ancient Egyptian Secret program which I acquired and have been using together with my meditations, I have never thought that together these two methods will work so well, If I can recommend something I would this program. It has had amazing results for me, and since I have gone through the details and using it as recommended I can’t complain at all.
I have added details on this product for you, please feel free to go look at it for those that might be interested, I will not promote something I think would not work, and which I have not tried myself.
Since I have done these two methods together, My Vision Scrapbooking and Diary, and this above program, I have felt much better, I can now focus on what’s important and manifest the life I always wanted.
It took a bit of time to get into the habit, and as explained in my prior post, consistency is most important, I would not change it for one second, I’ll do it all over again. Things are now so much better for me. I would highly recommend this to anyone that has the same issues as me or that wants to try something new.
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Good Evening All
Tonight I want to talk about the importance of mental, spiritual me time, moms, first you become a wife, you dedicate your entire existence to your husband and your relationship. In today’s world you have to as there are just too many “options” for when a partner is not happy, so you continue to keep hubby happy, then you become a mom, yes our children is special and they are our entire world, when you become a mom, after dedicating all your time to hubby, now you have children at home which is another full time job. Your working, your house has to be kept, children looked after, food cooked and served, hubby happy and fed and you still have to have “special time” too.
When I went through these steps in my life I never thought of the “Importance of who am I time” I never gave myself time to grow and learn who I was, yes today I thought that if I started later in life maybe it would have had another outcome, but I never considered to make time for me,
Later in my marriage things started falling apart, hubby also never gave himself some development time and never learned how to except himself and his flaws, ( he always wanted to be the best and his “Face” to others was the most important ) he could never cope when he had made a mistake, he was an aggressive person so everyone else, including me and the kids were always the ones making the mistakes and the wrong ones.
Long story short, when I decided that that was not the space I want to be in, being spiritual, I decided to walk away, but again after my two year hell battle to get divorced I was so lonely ( because I dedicated my entire life to every one else and felt empty ) that I started dating again, before giving myself again time to heal, this is the mistake we make, we think our lives can not work or feel useful when we don’t dedicate it to someone else.
So getting back to the story, I kept on choosing the wrong men, I felt that I was cursed by this, and that my broken marriage has broken me so badly that I don’t know how to choose good men anymore. If I did not choose ones that had bad habits, then I chose ones that did not know how to or want to manage my kids, so nothing worked.
Now I had to support myself as ex-hubby will never pay child support and felt that due to the divorce he is now relinquished of his responsibility as a father, well, that did not matter to me as I thought that he was a bad influence anyway.
When my kids were old enough I decided to immigrate and get away from all the “Bad Karma” and “Bad Energy” left at home, I also went to create a better space for my family, with better work options as my home country was becoming very unstable and our children don’t have much options there. I decided where to go, set myself up and left to start this journey.
Wow, was that a change, all of a sudden I was in a place where everyone obviously spoke a different language, different customs and a totally different feel. I loved the change, I still do. I set myself up, started the immigration process, got things ready, from living in hotels to getting my own place, and settled down.
But then something very big happened in my life, I was alone again, I have no one to attend to, I am in a different country, not socializing and only have my puppers as my company, I was trying to cope alone, but when I wake up in the morning if felt like I just wake up and it’s night again. My days flew by, and it felt like I was just getting older by the day. I did not like being alone and was scared that I was going to die alone. Did I want to die alone ?
I was thinking of dating again, but had to think long and hard if I wanted to let someone back into my life, I have gotten so used to only my space and I was not sure if I wanted to share that, did I want to change myself again to have someone in my life, just so that I was not alone ? Hell no !
Then I made a very hard decision, I need to understand and learn who I am first. Maybe my mistakes I continued to make was because I never had a chance to get to know me and always made “me” up by who I had in my life, and what I had to portray. So the decision to get to know me first came into place.
I have always been spiritual, and spiritual practices was very important in my life, I lost most of my “ Practices and Routines “ because of all the things explained above. I had to restart everything again, relearn everything and get back into the swing of taking care of me, mentally, spiritual and my physical health.
It was a hard decision to make and even today I’m still struggling to keep things consistent. I guess because I’m the only one driving myself, and sometimes myself still gets lazy.
I don’t know how many of you reading this post can relate to this ? I for sure can tell you it’s hard.
But it’s very important, in today’s world the mental health doctors are making more money that the GP’s on our health, mental health and suicides are most prevalent due to woman and men not able to cope with who the are, maybe the got divorced and got left alone or maybe they just got fed up with their lives, not thinking how important it is to learn to live and love themselves first.
So I have an idea,
Why don’t we together start a “ Spiritual Mental Health care regimen”, share ideas and motivate each other. We can not rely on anyone else but ourselves to help us get healthy and at the same time learn to love and accept ourselves.
I’ll start mine this morning, I feel it’s the correct time to start and it much needed. I hope that someone will take the time to read this and join me.
Please let me know what you think of this program and whether you want to join, I’ll be here anytime you would like to start. This program is open to anyone, irrespective of what problem you are facing. Let’s help each other without judgement.
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